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This is a difficult message to write because I don't often like being a hardass admin. I have never liked sites where the admin staff try to be dictators of their own little world and decide plot choices and behaviour choices for its members. I don't like it when someone is high-handed enough to demand that they know the best way to communicate and to act and therefore everyone should follow them.
And I hope that that isn't how this message is about to come across...
That being said, I am head admin of Aeipathy and - as much as I hate this bit of the job - it's my responsibility to ensure that our Principles and Doctrines are upheld by our community. Which means that I would be remiss in my job and being harmful to our community if I stayed silent when I was witness to patterns of behaviour that went against them.
For those who don't know, these are the pertinent Community Doctrines in quick-fire form and with a few additions for this particular announcement (so, even if you think you know these, please read them)...
WRITING IS A JOURNEY
Everyone is on the path of learning to write. And when we say write, we mean roleplay too. That includes, plotting, forming stories and making connections with members. We all come from different forum backgrounds with different rules and way to go about things. So we all have to assimilate and understand that not all members will go about things in the same way that we do. It's our role, as their peers, as their Mentors, as their staffers, to be a guide and a helping hand. Just as they will be to you. You'll have writing errors or failings somewhere and someone else will help you with yours. Pay it forward. Help the ones that come to you for help and aid them in their writing journey.
Side Note On a side note to this... How many roleplay forums do people know that have lasted as long as Aeipathy? There are not a lot of forums out there that have longevity. Which means there are hundreds of roleplayers out there, who have never hit on a site that has been long term, which means they have never had the chance to work out how to build relationships and character plots that can be sustained long-term - they've never had a field in which they can/have to do that. And it is easy to note when members get to a point in their longevity with Aeipathy that is longer than they have experienced on any other sites. Because they reach a point of.... well, what now? Helping other members doesn't stop with our Mentor System. Yes, it's the responsibility of our Community Mods to help people with their interpersonal skills and yes it's the job of our Kingdom Managers to ensure that they are helping to provide stories and plots to all who ask - be it with them or with someone else. But there is also a level of responsibility upon our members too. To understand that a new member doesn't come into Aeipathy, learn how we do things and then perfectly gel for the remainder of their time here. If that was the case, no-one would ever leave a site, ever. Instead, it's an up and down road of new experiences and confusing changes of technique and method, as our characters become more integrated or our stories more complicated, that we have a responsibility to each other to help us through.
WE ARE GENEROUS
We don't always want to write. We don't always feel in the mood, or a thread might not seem like the most amazing idea at the time. BUT who here has been in a thread that was just an experiment - something that seemed to have no direction and then WHAM it's the funniest/oddest/most entertaining thing ever? Or, perhaps you don't really like the idea of a thread, or don't really have the time to spare of an additional task on your tracker... but a member is really struggling. They've got issues with muse, or they have no idea how to write a particular character anymore and need to get in their heads. At Aeipathy we're Generous roleplayers. What does that mean? It means that we go out of our way to help. We go out of our way in time and effort and positivity to try and help those people to build some steam and get the creativity going. Yes, it might be a chore at the time. But, are you so impervious to moments of writer's block? Moments where you need help? There will be a time where you need a helping hand and others are super busy or not very impressed with your immediate ideas. But they will take the time to listen, plot and write. Because on Aeipathy, that is what we do.
Side Note: We do not, on Aeipathy, insist that everyone say 'Yes' to every plot that ever comes their way. We are not robots and we have lives and rp should be fun. We don't have the time to do that. What we do do, however, is - if we can't do a plot legitimately because we don't have the time or because it would go against our character's personality... we do something else. We suggest a different plot, we suggest another character of ours, or a different time frame in which the plot would work. And if all else fails, we match-make them with another member. We never just say 'no'.
MAKE PEACE, NOT WAR
This doctrine is simple enough. You can boil it down any which way but the simple ruling on this one is: 'be kind'. We don't make arguments where a discussion would be more productive. We don't gossip or bitch about members. We don't stir anger or resentment or do anything, in fact, that could send members or groups of members down paths that lead to drama and conflict. Our community doesn't expect its members to be perfect. We all have bad days where we're just not up to giving Benefit of the Doubt and turning the other cheek. But that's the benefit of online communication. You don't have to. You can just switch off or ignore that chat and come back to it when you are able. In short: this doctrine just means: if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.
If you're at all uncertain of our Doctrines or want further/formal confirmation on the ones above, you can read all our Community Doctrines here in the Encyclopedia.
To the Topic At Hand
This being said... (and this is the part I hate doing as an admin)... these doctrines are not being followed by everyone. I'm not about to name names or start shaming people publicly. That is not how we do things at Aeipathy. Especially given that this is a tiny, tiny percentage of the community...
Plot Avoidance
Some people have avoided roleplaying with certain members. They have done this perhaps because this person doesn't have the same social cues/culture/mental understanding/social rules as they (and are therefore coming across as annoying) or because they don't roleplay or plot in the same manner that they do (because of different forum experience or lack of longevity - see the reasonings above). Perhaps they fear that the other member is going to somehow make their life difficult because of these differences. For whatever reason, these members are denying plots outright without providing reason or suggesting alternatives. Or (worse still) they are claiming to wish to plot but delaying for one reason or another, whilst privately having no intention to follow through on it. Others seem to think that withholding plotting in some kind of 'discipline' return for poor behaviour against them or others...
Whilst I can offer Benefit of the Doubt here - I can accept that people with different social allowances or cultures can be annoying. And people who have different mental states or emotional issues, can come across as worrying or put up red flags in our heads... And we, as a community, would never expect someone to roleplay something entirely out of their comfort zone... there is a difference between avoiding plotting with someone because it genuinely wouldn't work and giving them alternative options. And just flat out avoiding them for personal reasons. The former is acceptable. The latter is not.
If you think that you might be someone who has fallen into the natural and understandable trap of the latter, I encourage you to think about whether or not you would give the blunt and truthful reason for your avoidance to the person you are avoiding. Would you tell them? To their face? If you would, then you probably have a perfectly valid reason for denying a plot and suggesting something else, elsewhere. No-one, after all, is embarrassed to admit that actually that plot would contradict your character's personality. Or that you genuinely just don't have the physical time at the moment to take on new threads. There's nothing awkward about that. But if you would feel shamed to admit why you are avoiding a plot with someone... then we, as a community, would like to ask you to reevaluate.
We don't choose who we roleplay with based on difference. We are an inclusive community. We are open to all ideas, to all plots, to all members who might talk in different social cues, in different languages, with different forum histories and expectations. We Are Generous, we give Benefit of the Doubt. We Make Peace, Not War <3
Preconceived Notions
In addition to this... Some members are actually speaking, in private, with potential members due to join or who have already joined the site... pre-warning them not to speak to or avoid certain members. Now, while I am open to giving the Benefit of the Doubt and understanding that this advice is likely well meant: not every member on every rp forum is easy to deal with and perhaps these people wished to divert newcomers away from the more difficult elements of the community... Perhaps they were just wanting that newcomer to have a good experience here at Aeipathy and not trip over issues the second they walk in the door... I can accept and hear that and understand it. But that does not make this an acceptable way of doing that.
Regardless of personal experiences with members... Everyone is entitled to form their own opinions about each of our members. Opinions that may be different to yours. So, please, don't take that chance away from them.
Added to this, our staff team are pretty on it. We have a good and open communication with our community, who aren't shy in coming to us when they have an issue. We are normally informed of any and all issues that arise on Aeipathy. And we don't just let them go by. We talk to the members involved. Our staff team spend hours of their weeks mediating misunderstandings or giving members who find it harder to fit in the tools to plot and communicate better. If newcomers are diverted away from these members... how are they expected to prove that they can learn and grow based on this advice?
At Aeipathy we offer a blank slate mentality. After each issue is resolved, we move forward with Benefit of the Doubt. We have taught, we have learned, we have grown. So... let the members in question prove that they have. <3 Don't take that chance away from them.
Real Talk
I don't want this to be a tirade or a guilt trip of a bunny slipper. I don't want to bring everyone's moods down or make people feel bad. Genuinely, I don't. But I also don't want people to think that this isn't important. Because it is.
How many people on this forum got into roleplaying because they didn't fit in? Because they were bullied in school? Or because people didn't understand their love for writing? How many people have found an accepting home here on Aeipathy? A place they can feel comfortable and secure? I hope that it's a lot...
So please guys... consider not just the intentions behind your actions, but the perceptions that they can cause. Because what I've described above - regardless of intention and hope... it's bullying. It's hurtful. And it's not what Aeipathy is about. <3
JD
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This is a difficult message to write because I don't often like being a hardass admin. I have never liked sites where the admin staff try to be dictators of their own little world and decide plot choices and behaviour choices for its members. I don't like it when someone is high-handed enough to demand that they know the best way to communicate and to act and therefore everyone should follow them.
And I hope that that isn't how this message is about to come across...
That being said, I am head admin of Aeipathy and - as much as I hate this bit of the job - it's my responsibility to ensure that our Principles and Doctrines are upheld by our community. Which means that I would be remiss in my job and being harmful to our community if I stayed silent when I was witness to patterns of behaviour that went against them.
For those who don't know, these are the pertinent Community Doctrines in quick-fire form and with a few additions for this particular announcement (so, even if you think you know these, please read them)...
WRITING IS A JOURNEY
Everyone is on the path of learning to write. And when we say write, we mean roleplay too. That includes, plotting, forming stories and making connections with members. We all come from different forum backgrounds with different rules and way to go about things. So we all have to assimilate and understand that not all members will go about things in the same way that we do. It's our role, as their peers, as their Mentors, as their staffers, to be a guide and a helping hand. Just as they will be to you. You'll have writing errors or failings somewhere and someone else will help you with yours. Pay it forward. Help the ones that come to you for help and aid them in their writing journey.
Side Note On a side note to this... How many roleplay forums do people know that have lasted as long as Aeipathy? There are not a lot of forums out there that have longevity. Which means there are hundreds of roleplayers out there, who have never hit on a site that has been long term, which means they have never had the chance to work out how to build relationships and character plots that can be sustained long-term - they've never had a field in which they can/have to do that. And it is easy to note when members get to a point in their longevity with Aeipathy that is longer than they have experienced on any other sites. Because they reach a point of.... well, what now? Helping other members doesn't stop with our Mentor System. Yes, it's the responsibility of our Community Mods to help people with their interpersonal skills and yes it's the job of our Kingdom Managers to ensure that they are helping to provide stories and plots to all who ask - be it with them or with someone else. But there is also a level of responsibility upon our members too. To understand that a new member doesn't come into Aeipathy, learn how we do things and then perfectly gel for the remainder of their time here. If that was the case, no-one would ever leave a site, ever. Instead, it's an up and down road of new experiences and confusing changes of technique and method, as our characters become more integrated or our stories more complicated, that we have a responsibility to each other to help us through.
WE ARE GENEROUS
We don't always want to write. We don't always feel in the mood, or a thread might not seem like the most amazing idea at the time. BUT who here has been in a thread that was just an experiment - something that seemed to have no direction and then WHAM it's the funniest/oddest/most entertaining thing ever? Or, perhaps you don't really like the idea of a thread, or don't really have the time to spare of an additional task on your tracker... but a member is really struggling. They've got issues with muse, or they have no idea how to write a particular character anymore and need to get in their heads. At Aeipathy we're Generous roleplayers. What does that mean? It means that we go out of our way to help. We go out of our way in time and effort and positivity to try and help those people to build some steam and get the creativity going. Yes, it might be a chore at the time. But, are you so impervious to moments of writer's block? Moments where you need help? There will be a time where you need a helping hand and others are super busy or not very impressed with your immediate ideas. But they will take the time to listen, plot and write. Because on Aeipathy, that is what we do.
Side Note: We do not, on Aeipathy, insist that everyone say 'Yes' to every plot that ever comes their way. We are not robots and we have lives and rp should be fun. We don't have the time to do that. What we do do, however, is - if we can't do a plot legitimately because we don't have the time or because it would go against our character's personality... we do something else. We suggest a different plot, we suggest another character of ours, or a different time frame in which the plot would work. And if all else fails, we match-make them with another member. We never just say 'no'.
MAKE PEACE, NOT WAR
This doctrine is simple enough. You can boil it down any which way but the simple ruling on this one is: 'be kind'. We don't make arguments where a discussion would be more productive. We don't gossip or bitch about members. We don't stir anger or resentment or do anything, in fact, that could send members or groups of members down paths that lead to drama and conflict. Our community doesn't expect its members to be perfect. We all have bad days where we're just not up to giving Benefit of the Doubt and turning the other cheek. But that's the benefit of online communication. You don't have to. You can just switch off or ignore that chat and come back to it when you are able. In short: this doctrine just means: if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.
If you're at all uncertain of our Doctrines or want further/formal confirmation on the ones above, you can read all our Community Doctrines here in the Encyclopedia.
To the Topic At Hand
This being said... (and this is the part I hate doing as an admin)... these doctrines are not being followed by everyone. I'm not about to name names or start shaming people publicly. That is not how we do things at Aeipathy. Especially given that this is a tiny, tiny percentage of the community...
Plot Avoidance
Some people have avoided roleplaying with certain members. They have done this perhaps because this person doesn't have the same social cues/culture/mental understanding/social rules as they (and are therefore coming across as annoying) or because they don't roleplay or plot in the same manner that they do (because of different forum experience or lack of longevity - see the reasonings above). Perhaps they fear that the other member is going to somehow make their life difficult because of these differences. For whatever reason, these members are denying plots outright without providing reason or suggesting alternatives. Or (worse still) they are claiming to wish to plot but delaying for one reason or another, whilst privately having no intention to follow through on it. Others seem to think that withholding plotting in some kind of 'discipline' return for poor behaviour against them or others...
Whilst I can offer Benefit of the Doubt here - I can accept that people with different social allowances or cultures can be annoying. And people who have different mental states or emotional issues, can come across as worrying or put up red flags in our heads... And we, as a community, would never expect someone to roleplay something entirely out of their comfort zone... there is a difference between avoiding plotting with someone because it genuinely wouldn't work and giving them alternative options. And just flat out avoiding them for personal reasons. The former is acceptable. The latter is not.
If you think that you might be someone who has fallen into the natural and understandable trap of the latter, I encourage you to think about whether or not you would give the blunt and truthful reason for your avoidance to the person you are avoiding. Would you tell them? To their face? If you would, then you probably have a perfectly valid reason for denying a plot and suggesting something else, elsewhere. No-one, after all, is embarrassed to admit that actually that plot would contradict your character's personality. Or that you genuinely just don't have the physical time at the moment to take on new threads. There's nothing awkward about that. But if you would feel shamed to admit why you are avoiding a plot with someone... then we, as a community, would like to ask you to reevaluate.
We don't choose who we roleplay with based on difference. We are an inclusive community. We are open to all ideas, to all plots, to all members who might talk in different social cues, in different languages, with different forum histories and expectations. We Are Generous, we give Benefit of the Doubt. We Make Peace, Not War <3
Preconceived Notions
In addition to this... Some members are actually speaking, in private, with potential members due to join or who have already joined the site... pre-warning them not to speak to or avoid certain members. Now, while I am open to giving the Benefit of the Doubt and understanding that this advice is likely well meant: not every member on every rp forum is easy to deal with and perhaps these people wished to divert newcomers away from the more difficult elements of the community... Perhaps they were just wanting that newcomer to have a good experience here at Aeipathy and not trip over issues the second they walk in the door... I can accept and hear that and understand it. But that does not make this an acceptable way of doing that.
Regardless of personal experiences with members... Everyone is entitled to form their own opinions about each of our members. Opinions that may be different to yours. So, please, don't take that chance away from them.
Added to this, our staff team are pretty on it. We have a good and open communication with our community, who aren't shy in coming to us when they have an issue. We are normally informed of any and all issues that arise on Aeipathy. And we don't just let them go by. We talk to the members involved. Our staff team spend hours of their weeks mediating misunderstandings or giving members who find it harder to fit in the tools to plot and communicate better. If newcomers are diverted away from these members... how are they expected to prove that they can learn and grow based on this advice?
At Aeipathy we offer a blank slate mentality. After each issue is resolved, we move forward with Benefit of the Doubt. We have taught, we have learned, we have grown. So... let the members in question prove that they have. <3 Don't take that chance away from them.
Real Talk
I don't want this to be a tirade or a guilt trip of a bunny slipper. I don't want to bring everyone's moods down or make people feel bad. Genuinely, I don't. But I also don't want people to think that this isn't important. Because it is.
How many people on this forum got into roleplaying because they didn't fit in? Because they were bullied in school? Or because people didn't understand their love for writing? How many people have found an accepting home here on Aeipathy? A place they can feel comfortable and secure? I hope that it's a lot...
So please guys... consider not just the intentions behind your actions, but the perceptions that they can cause. Because what I've described above - regardless of intention and hope... it's bullying. It's hurtful. And it's not what Aeipathy is about. <3
Kindness
This is a difficult message to write because I don't often like being a hardass admin. I have never liked sites where the admin staff try to be dictators of their own little world and decide plot choices and behaviour choices for its members. I don't like it when someone is high-handed enough to demand that they know the best way to communicate and to act and therefore everyone should follow them.
And I hope that that isn't how this message is about to come across...
That being said, I am head admin of Aeipathy and - as much as I hate this bit of the job - it's my responsibility to ensure that our Principles and Doctrines are upheld by our community. Which means that I would be remiss in my job and being harmful to our community if I stayed silent when I was witness to patterns of behaviour that went against them.
For those who don't know, these are the pertinent Community Doctrines in quick-fire form and with a few additions for this particular announcement (so, even if you think you know these, please read them)...
WRITING IS A JOURNEY
Everyone is on the path of learning to write. And when we say write, we mean roleplay too. That includes, plotting, forming stories and making connections with members. We all come from different forum backgrounds with different rules and way to go about things. So we all have to assimilate and understand that not all members will go about things in the same way that we do. It's our role, as their peers, as their Mentors, as their staffers, to be a guide and a helping hand. Just as they will be to you. You'll have writing errors or failings somewhere and someone else will help you with yours. Pay it forward. Help the ones that come to you for help and aid them in their writing journey.
Side Note On a side note to this... How many roleplay forums do people know that have lasted as long as Aeipathy? There are not a lot of forums out there that have longevity. Which means there are hundreds of roleplayers out there, who have never hit on a site that has been long term, which means they have never had the chance to work out how to build relationships and character plots that can be sustained long-term - they've never had a field in which they can/have to do that. And it is easy to note when members get to a point in their longevity with Aeipathy that is longer than they have experienced on any other sites. Because they reach a point of.... well, what now? Helping other members doesn't stop with our Mentor System. Yes, it's the responsibility of our Community Mods to help people with their interpersonal skills and yes it's the job of our Kingdom Managers to ensure that they are helping to provide stories and plots to all who ask - be it with them or with someone else. But there is also a level of responsibility upon our members too. To understand that a new member doesn't come into Aeipathy, learn how we do things and then perfectly gel for the remainder of their time here. If that was the case, no-one would ever leave a site, ever. Instead, it's an up and down road of new experiences and confusing changes of technique and method, as our characters become more integrated or our stories more complicated, that we have a responsibility to each other to help us through.
WE ARE GENEROUS
We don't always want to write. We don't always feel in the mood, or a thread might not seem like the most amazing idea at the time. BUT who here has been in a thread that was just an experiment - something that seemed to have no direction and then WHAM it's the funniest/oddest/most entertaining thing ever? Or, perhaps you don't really like the idea of a thread, or don't really have the time to spare of an additional task on your tracker... but a member is really struggling. They've got issues with muse, or they have no idea how to write a particular character anymore and need to get in their heads. At Aeipathy we're Generous roleplayers. What does that mean? It means that we go out of our way to help. We go out of our way in time and effort and positivity to try and help those people to build some steam and get the creativity going. Yes, it might be a chore at the time. But, are you so impervious to moments of writer's block? Moments where you need help? There will be a time where you need a helping hand and others are super busy or not very impressed with your immediate ideas. But they will take the time to listen, plot and write. Because on Aeipathy, that is what we do.
Side Note: We do not, on Aeipathy, insist that everyone say 'Yes' to every plot that ever comes their way. We are not robots and we have lives and rp should be fun. We don't have the time to do that. What we do do, however, is - if we can't do a plot legitimately because we don't have the time or because it would go against our character's personality... we do something else. We suggest a different plot, we suggest another character of ours, or a different time frame in which the plot would work. And if all else fails, we match-make them with another member. We never just say 'no'.
MAKE PEACE, NOT WAR
This doctrine is simple enough. You can boil it down any which way but the simple ruling on this one is: 'be kind'. We don't make arguments where a discussion would be more productive. We don't gossip or bitch about members. We don't stir anger or resentment or do anything, in fact, that could send members or groups of members down paths that lead to drama and conflict. Our community doesn't expect its members to be perfect. We all have bad days where we're just not up to giving Benefit of the Doubt and turning the other cheek. But that's the benefit of online communication. You don't have to. You can just switch off or ignore that chat and come back to it when you are able. In short: this doctrine just means: if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.
If you're at all uncertain of our Doctrines or want further/formal confirmation on the ones above, you can read all our Community Doctrines here in the Encyclopedia.
To the Topic At Hand
This being said... (and this is the part I hate doing as an admin)... these doctrines are not being followed by everyone. I'm not about to name names or start shaming people publicly. That is not how we do things at Aeipathy. Especially given that this is a tiny, tiny percentage of the community...
Plot Avoidance
Some people have avoided roleplaying with certain members. They have done this perhaps because this person doesn't have the same social cues/culture/mental understanding/social rules as they (and are therefore coming across as annoying) or because they don't roleplay or plot in the same manner that they do (because of different forum experience or lack of longevity - see the reasonings above). Perhaps they fear that the other member is going to somehow make their life difficult because of these differences. For whatever reason, these members are denying plots outright without providing reason or suggesting alternatives. Or (worse still) they are claiming to wish to plot but delaying for one reason or another, whilst privately having no intention to follow through on it. Others seem to think that withholding plotting in some kind of 'discipline' return for poor behaviour against them or others...
Whilst I can offer Benefit of the Doubt here - I can accept that people with different social allowances or cultures can be annoying. And people who have different mental states or emotional issues, can come across as worrying or put up red flags in our heads... And we, as a community, would never expect someone to roleplay something entirely out of their comfort zone... there is a difference between avoiding plotting with someone because it genuinely wouldn't work and giving them alternative options. And just flat out avoiding them for personal reasons. The former is acceptable. The latter is not.
If you think that you might be someone who has fallen into the natural and understandable trap of the latter, I encourage you to think about whether or not you would give the blunt and truthful reason for your avoidance to the person you are avoiding. Would you tell them? To their face? If you would, then you probably have a perfectly valid reason for denying a plot and suggesting something else, elsewhere. No-one, after all, is embarrassed to admit that actually that plot would contradict your character's personality. Or that you genuinely just don't have the physical time at the moment to take on new threads. There's nothing awkward about that. But if you would feel shamed to admit why you are avoiding a plot with someone... then we, as a community, would like to ask you to reevaluate.
We don't choose who we roleplay with based on difference. We are an inclusive community. We are open to all ideas, to all plots, to all members who might talk in different social cues, in different languages, with different forum histories and expectations. We Are Generous, we give Benefit of the Doubt. We Make Peace, Not War <3
Preconceived Notions
In addition to this... Some members are actually speaking, in private, with potential members due to join or who have already joined the site... pre-warning them not to speak to or avoid certain members. Now, while I am open to giving the Benefit of the Doubt and understanding that this advice is likely well meant: not every member on every rp forum is easy to deal with and perhaps these people wished to divert newcomers away from the more difficult elements of the community... Perhaps they were just wanting that newcomer to have a good experience here at Aeipathy and not trip over issues the second they walk in the door... I can accept and hear that and understand it. But that does not make this an acceptable way of doing that.
Regardless of personal experiences with members... Everyone is entitled to form their own opinions about each of our members. Opinions that may be different to yours. So, please, don't take that chance away from them.
Added to this, our staff team are pretty on it. We have a good and open communication with our community, who aren't shy in coming to us when they have an issue. We are normally informed of any and all issues that arise on Aeipathy. And we don't just let them go by. We talk to the members involved. Our staff team spend hours of their weeks mediating misunderstandings or giving members who find it harder to fit in the tools to plot and communicate better. If newcomers are diverted away from these members... how are they expected to prove that they can learn and grow based on this advice?
At Aeipathy we offer a blank slate mentality. After each issue is resolved, we move forward with Benefit of the Doubt. We have taught, we have learned, we have grown. So... let the members in question prove that they have. <3 Don't take that chance away from them.
Real Talk
I don't want this to be a tirade or a guilt trip of a bunny slipper. I don't want to bring everyone's moods down or make people feel bad. Genuinely, I don't. But I also don't want people to think that this isn't important. Because it is.
How many people on this forum got into roleplaying because they didn't fit in? Because they were bullied in school? Or because people didn't understand their love for writing? How many people have found an accepting home here on Aeipathy? A place they can feel comfortable and secure? I hope that it's a lot...
So please guys... consider not just the intentions behind your actions, but the perceptions that they can cause. Because what I've described above - regardless of intention and hope... it's bullying. It's hurtful. And it's not what Aeipathy is about. <3